BY Beth McLean

As we grow older, the holidays often begin to look different. Families change, traditions evolve, and health or distance may limit the celebrations we once knew. But growing older also brings something beautiful—wisdom, perspective, and a deeper appreciation for what truly matters. For caregivers, the holidays can also bring extra stress, fatigue, and emotional strain. November is National Family Caregivers Month, a time to recognize those who support loved ones suffering from chronic conditions, injuries, disabilities, or diseases. These unsung heroes not only provide a critical value to society, but often they are the only bridge between the loved one’s health insurance capabilities and finances that might otherwise be impossible. Many caregivers give so much of themselves throughout the year that the holidays can feel overwhelming or bittersweet. Supporting them during this time can make a world of difference.

Encourage Caregivers to Acknowledge Their Own Feelings

It’s okay to feel a mix of emotions as a caregiver. The holidays can instantly bring back memories of people, places, or heartfelt seasons of life from long ago. This is the time to acknowledge the positive outcomes, achievements, and improvements that result from creating comfort and dignity in someone’s life every single day. Expressing feelings is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Listen with Compassion

Sometimes what caregivers need most is someone who will simply listen. The holidays can stir up strong emotions—grief, guilt, or loneliness. A kind, nonjudgmental ear can help process feelings and provide companionship simultaneously, diminishing isolation.

Be Flexible and Understanding

Caregivers may need to adjust holiday plans or traditions due to their loved one’s health or needs. Be patient if they decline invitations or leave gatherings early. Offer inclusion without pressure, and remind them they’re welcome in whatever approach works best for them.

Let Others Take Part in Giving

For those who have spent a lifetime caring for others, receiving help can feel unfamiliar. Whether it’s running an errand, providing respite care, or simply offering companionship, allowing others to help is a way of giving them joy as well. When family, friends, or caregivers lend a hand, they are expressing love and gratitude—just as you have done for them. Accepting support can lighten your load and help preserve your own energy for the moments that matter most.

Honor Memories While Remaining Open to Creating New Ones

It’s natural to reflect on holidays past—the people who shaped our lives, the traditions that brought joy. Sharing those stories keeps them alive and helps others understand the richness of our experiences. At the same time, being open to new traditions, such as a holiday sing-along, craft, or candlelight gathering, can bring fresh joy and connection. Even when the holidays look different, they can still be beautiful. Joy is found not in what we do, but in how we share love, laughter, and gratitude with one another.

The Wellness Center at Lowman offers a variety of fitness & wellness opportunities for participants of all abilities and skill levels including Tai-Chi, Yoga, Aqua Groove, Zumba Gold, and more. What’s more, aging adults are eligible to join the Wellness Center for a monthly membership fee (like a gym membership), even if they do not live on campus. Popular social activities at the Heritage at Lowman include card games such as Bridge and Hand & Foot, Pub Trivia, and our monthly potluck dinner where the main course is provided by our bistro, with residents each providing a side dish or dessert to share with friends.